Hi Veronica ...
Tuesday, June 6, 2017
Sunday, May 21, 2017
Blame Shifting Is Responsibility Shifting
We know a lot of people find it difficult to ask for help. Alone, however, it can be too difficult to identify what about your relationships is causing so much pain. When Jimmy pins his problems on his mom, he doesn’t have to take responsibility for himself. He doesn’t even have to be reasonable. It’s her fault. If she buys his argument, she’s allowing herself to be both used and abused. If she tries to hold him accountable, he’s likely to get even madder. When you’re scapegoated by a family member, lover, or co-worker, you cannot win no matter what you say or what you do. A therapist can help identify what’s going on. .... Try Al-Anon for more information